LETTING GO TAKES LOVE! Adapted from http://ucsfspiritcare.org/news/reflection-for-letting-go/
To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future. more
To let go is to fear less and love more
To let go is to find peace
To recognize that letting go frees us to move on to new things
To better understand how we experience loss and anger
Taking It Home
Letting go doesn’t come naturally for most of us. We cling to the familiar and hold on to what we know. Help your child to let go of perfection, anger, fear…by gently observing patterns that keep them stuck.
Teach your kindergartner a technique for dealing with anger
Constant praise can make them seek perfection, rather than experiencing the reward of effort and facing a challenge. Engage in conversation about their efforts or better yet, ask questions about what they are doing and how they are feeling about it. Instead of “that’s a beautiful picture your are drawing” try “I see you are working hard on that picture, tell me about it” or observe the colors they are using and ask why they chose them.
Each evening, spend five to ten minutes reviewing your day. Do not spend more time than that, as it is far too easy to get caught up in how you could have handled things differently! Watch your day as if it were a movie. Stay in the present, even as you see things you wish you could change. Then let go!
Some other ideas for letting go can be found here.
Our RE Stories for the Theme
“The Water Bearer’s Garden,” as told in Windows and Mirrors, Tapestry of Faith, UUA
“The Scratched Diamond,” as told in Love Will Guide Us, Tapestry of Faith, UUA
“Anger: A Buddhist Story,” as told in Love Will Guide Us, Tapestry of Faith, UUA
“A Barn Raising,” as told in Wonderful Welcome, Tapestry of Faith, UUA