Living the Theme: Intimacy

I wonder if this is how people always get close: They heal each other’s wounds; they repair the broken skin.” ― Lauren OliverPandemonium

Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.” 
― Alain de Botton


“I hate solitude, but I’m afraid of intimacy. The substance of my life is a private conversation with myself which to turn into a dialogue would be equivalent to self-destruction. The company which I need is the company which a pub or a cafe will provide. I have never wanted a communion of souls. It’s already hard enough to tell the truth to oneself.” ― Iris MurdochUnder the Net

“There’s nothing more intimate in life than simply being understood. And understanding someone else.” 
― Brad MeltzerThe Inner Circle

“Hurry and intimacy are two entirely different things. What our children will remember most about their childhood when they grow older are two things, how much love was in the home, and how much time you spent with them.” — Richard Swenson


To foster a sense of safety and intimacy in the classroom

To practice deep listening

To understand that intimacy requires the willingness to share deeply

To think about our own beliefs and encourage children to share them in a safe environment

Taking It Home

Intimacy requires entering into our children’s worlds. One way to do this is to ask our children questions that take us to the deepest places of their hearts and then listen for what [god] is saying and revealing about their hearts. Consider questions like the following:

What is your greatest fear right now?

What do you worry about?

What do you need more of from Mom and Dad?

What do you get really angry about?

What do you get really sad about?

What are your greatest dreams?

What are your greatest joys?


Visit other websites that have suggestions for fostering emotional intimacy.

Explore your own beliefs, as well as those of your children by talking with them about what you believe, what your faith heritage was/is. Be sure to let them know that you support them in their beliefs, even if they are different from yours. Younger children will most likely want to believe what you do and that’s okay. As long as you let them know that they are free to believe what they want about God, life, death, etc., they will develop their own beliefs as they gain more independence.

Learn more about Linus Pauling, our focus for February 25th.

Our RE Stories for the Theme

The Best Meal” by Nina Jaffe, as told in Creating Home, Tapestry of Faith, UUA

From North to South by René Colato Lainez

Ruth and Naomi” adapted from Hebrew Scripture, as told in Creating Home, Tapestry of Faith, UUA

Reason, Science, and the Question of God” as presented in A Place of Wholeness, Tapestry of Faith, UUA